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This blog is about the meaning of gay lives, discussed in mom, teen, and office friendly ways. This is not a sex blog and does not contain explicit adult content. Enjoy!

Gay, Explained

Preston Grant

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Advice to do-gooders

Sage advice for do-gooders everywhere…

Don’t ask yourself what the world needs;  ask yourself what makes you come alive.  And then go and do that. 

Because what the world needs  is people who have come alive.

~ Howard Thurman

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The Middle Way in a Divided World

William Butler Yeats wrote in The Second Coming:

Turning and turning in the widening gyre 
The falcon cannot hear the falconer;
 Things fall apart; the centre cannot hold; 
Mere anarchy is loosed upon the world,
 The blood-dimmed tide is loosed, and everywhere
 The ceremony of innocence is drowned;
 The best lack all conviction, while [...]

Steve Jobs on Life

From his Commencement Address at Stanford University in 2005:

Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life. Don’t be trapped by dogma — which is living with the results of other people’s thinking. Don’t let the noise of others’ opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most important, have the [...]

The Ins and Outs of Knowledge

A wise friend of mine, Billy Pacholoski, taught me something useful recently. He pointed out:

We get a lot of our information from outside ourselves these days. We need to listen to what is inside more.

Amen.

My Theory of Layers

I have a theory that informs my life. I believe that what is most interesting and valuable in life has layers. While I enjoy seeing what is beautiful on the surface, looking through the obvious to what lies beyond is a core value.

This first occurred to me in my therapists office, though it had [...]